A Star is Born!

Alone as a Couple

Just last night I was on Yahoo! Messenger catching up with an old friend, who also happened to be an ex-boyfriend. I was 14 when we started dating, so it’s been quite a while. I haven’t even seen him in, oh, almost a decade.

Anyways, it got me thinking about relationships and how things change so much once you get married. When you’re dating, you have friends that you hang out with and no one person is expected to fulfill all your needs as a person. Like you might have a girlfriend that you can tell anything to, and another friend that you can have intellectually stimulating conversations with about the economy and current events in world news. So my question is, once you find “the one”, is it fair to expect that they should fulfill every need, and if not, how do you explain to your spouse that you have to have those needs filled elsewhere.

I feel pretty blessed that I have someone that I can tell just about anything to and have fun with, even though we are a couple of lazy ol’ married farts that rarely get out anymore. But still, talking with my friend last night made me miss the fact that I USED to have friends.

I used to hang out with a variety of people, most if not all, with different beliefs than my own…which allowed me to keep my mind open to new things and explore different ideas. I think this is how people get more stubborn and rigid in their old age. Time might hand out wisdom, but it’s rare to be thought wise when you refuse to step in another’s shoes and see outside your own box. I don’t want this to become me.

So, can I still be proper and be allowed to have friends while married? What are your thoughts?